I’m Tired - Help!
Tired is a word that can mean so many things. We use this word to mean in need of sleep, finished exercising, or even annoyed with a situation (i.e. “I’m tired of this”). You can be multiple kinds of tired at once, and they often overlap. We can be emotionally, spiritually, or physically tired. When someone says that they are tired, the advice is usually to rest. However, rest can look different depending on what kind of tiredness you are experiencing. If you are resting for a kind of tiredness that you are not feeling, the feeling will not go away. Seems pretty straightforward!
What is Stimming? Understanding Self-Regulation in Autism & ADHD
If you are neurodivergent, you may have experienced or noticed repetitive behaviors known as "stimming." What is stimming, and why is it essential for neurodivergent individuals? Discover how it helps with self-regulation, emotional expression, and advocacy for autism & ADHD. Stimming—short for self-stimulatory behavior—refers to repetitive movements, sounds, or interactions with objects that stimulate the senses.
The Worst Advice Given by Parents
Most parents strive to be great at parenting. We want “the best” for our kids so they grow up to be successful. However, research has shown that successful kids don’t come from what has classically been doled out as parenting advice. Healthy eating habits, self-control, social skills, and compassion for others are trademarks of a “successful” child.
How to Stay Informed Without Becoming Overwhelmed
Many, if not every therapist and therapy client are currently facing some version of the question: “How can I stay informed without being constantly overwhelmed by the news cycle?” The answer to this question is specific to each individual, but there are a number of suggestions to help form your own answer to this question. Examining your relationship with news and media consumption is worth doing, especially if you’re finding it hard not to become overwhelmed, despairing, anxious, and angry when checking the news. The most recent American Psychological Association’s Stress in America™ poll shows that political and economic stressors are the highest sources of stress in adult Americans in 2024. The following 6 tips may help you fix your relationship with news consumption.
How Body Image Impacts Mental Health: Coping With the Ongoing Nature of Body Image Struggles
Body image isn’t just looking at yourself in the mirror to check on your outfit. It’s about the feelings you have about your body. These feelings can be about your height, shape, weight or how your body moves, as well as how your clothes feel on your body. The feelings can be about your body in the present – like when you’re looking in the mirror – or as you think about your body in the present, past or future. How we talk about our physical selves – our internal voice and monologue – is our body image. This blog will go into more detail about the different kinds of body image we have, as well as ways to better understand them.
Financial Stress
Many people are currently or in the past experienced a wide range of financial stressors, from being between jobs, having debt (student loans, mortgages, car payments, credit cards), or simply struggling to keep up with the ever-increasing cost of living. Financial struggles are real, and have real impacts on mental health. Day-to-day life can feel like a nightmare when you’re unsure if you can pay the bills, afford groceries, or be prepared for life’s emergencies.
How to Romanticize Your Life: Investing in Yourself and Your Relationships
With it being February, there is a lot of focus on relationships and companionship. There is a primary focus on romantic relationships. However, I want to challenge you to tap into another very important relationship: the relationship you have with yourself. Whether you are single or in a relationship, it is important to maintain a healthy balance between focusing on yourself, growing as a person, and building strong relationships with friends, family, and your community. While some people may associate solo time with being lonely, the truth is that it is a time full of exciting opportunities. When you invest in yourself and your connections with others, life can feel rich and full of joy.
Valentine’s Day Expectations
With relationships come expectations. Having a partner or dating more casually sometimes creates a need for certain types of celebrations or recognition of your relationship, either publicly or privately. With the amount of time we spend on social media, our feeds become nothing but photos of flowers, cards, and gifts that people have received from their Valentine and just cannot wait to show off. No matter if you are single, dating, engaged, married, uncertain, or none of the above, Valentine’s Day can create unnecessary stress and anxiety.
When Anxiety Comes Out Sideways
Oftentimes, when dealing with kids, teens and even some adults, anxiety doesn’t present itself as them saying “I feel worried” but, instead, as behaviors. These behaviors may include yelling, hitting, crying, kicking, and shoving. They may refuse to do what they have been asked, attempt to control the situation, or ask questions. Physical symptoms may include headaches, stomach aches, difficulty sleeping and isolating themselves. When working with an anxious child, it is important to see these behaviors as what they are: a form of communication. Something has happened that has made your child’s brain feel threatened or unsafe and now the amygdala has taken over.
What Parents Should Expect of Their Child’s Therapy
Your child needs therapy, and you aren’t sure what to expect. Maybe you’ve never personally been to therapy, or maybe you had a negative experience with it, and you’re not sure what it will be like for your child. You are understandably uncertain and may be apprehensive about bringing your child to a new therapist. You’re more familiar with the dynamics of parent-teacher conferences or sitting in on your child’s doctor’s appointments. Therapy is unique in a lot of ways, especially concerning the treatment of your child’s mental health. This post outlines some things you can expect to experience when you take your child to meet with a therapist.
New Year's Resolutions (That Have Nothing To Do With Weight Loss)
As we enter 2025, resolution season is upon us (or happening). From social media, media ads, pop-ups, news reports, and people we engage with daily, we are sure to hear about resolutions. About half of adults in the US will make a New Year's resolution this January, but very few people will be able to see those resolutions through. One study found that only 4% of those people will achieve their goals. There is a lot to unpack here, but first, what are people's most common goals?
Can I Be Friends with My Therapist? The Importance of Healthy Therapeutic Boundaries
Therapy is a unique relationship. You share everything about yourself with your therapist, but they don’t share much, if anything, about themselves. Many therapists are open to answering certain questions about themselves or may share a little bit about themselves if it’s appropriate, but the relationship is not a friendship. Some therapists will not share any information about themselves with their clients, but this depends on the client, the therapist, and the relationship. A therapist’s goal is never to move away from the client's best interest, and talking about themselves can do that very quickly.
How to Be More Productive: Goals vs. Systems
With the New Year upon us, you most likely have been reflecting on what you would like to accomplish this upcoming year. You may be thinking about different skills or habits that you want to add to your routine, like reading more books, being more physically active, or keeping your home and personal space more organized. Maybe you have a big goal in mind for yourself, like, "I will read 50 books this year," or "I will save $1,000 in an emergency fund." Goals can be great, however there is another way to increase productivity: setting up systems or routines. Let’s talk about the difference between goals and systems and which one might work best for you.
Finding Support in Challenging Times
Support is crucial to getting through challenging times, and not being able to express how we are doing can lead to further mental health problems. Reaching out for help is hard, and not everyone feels capable or ready to do that when they need help. If we are not really listening when we ask people how they are doing, we are perpetuating a dangerous cycle.
10 Tips to Help with Seasonal Affective Disorder
As the seasons change, and the days seem to become shorter some people feel a little more sad or more tired than usual compared to the warmer months. This is called Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD for short. It usually happens in the fall and winter when there is less sunlight, and the temperatures begin to shift. But don’t worry! There are ways to feel better and make the most of every season of life. Here are 10 tips and strategies to help you feel happier during the colder months.
Holiday Anxiety: Ways to cope this Season with Quick, Practical Tips to Help
Holiday anxiety can turn what’s often considered the most joyful time of year into a period of stress and dread. During the time of year marked by twinkling lights, cooler air, and the aroma of holiday scents, a silent struggle looms for many people: a holiday season marked by increased anxiety and mental health challenges. We are told that we should relax, savor the joy of the season, spend time with loved ones, and lean into all the season has to offer. And while all of that sounds great in theory, many people face a myriad of complex emotions that challenge the notion that the season is supposed to be marked with simplicity, relaxation, and joy.
Burning the Candle From Both Ends: Are You Living to Work?
It can be so easy to find yourself going through the motions: going to work, coming home, watching TV for a few hours (some of us are checking our work email while we do it), and then going to bed. Rinse and repeat, day after day, just on autopilot. It can be so easy to take the work with you, to stress about all of the tasks you need to get done. Your needs matter! If you need to take time off, do so. If you need to attend to your needs, I invite you not to feel guilty for taking care of yourself. And if you see that things, no matter how many times you try and speak up, aren’t changing, then it’s time to try and look for something else.
Your First Therapy Session
Therapy is a common recommendation when someone discusses stress, anxiety, depression, or relationship issues. As therapists, we love to see therapy being recognized as a valid treatment option, as well as normalized to reduce stigma. We love hearing people talk about their experiences in therapy on social media and in casual conversation. But what about those of us who have never been to therapy before? What is it like? How do we know it’s a good fit? Is every session like the first session? What is going to happen?
How to Set Boundaries in 3 Steps
At what point do you start to feel like a situation or interaction is uncomfortable? Do you feel you are being taken advantage of? Perhaps you’re pushing yourself beyond your limits out of guilt, or someone has crossed a boundary.
The Most Wonderful Time of the Year?
The holidays are a reminder of family, which can be a sore subject for a lot of reasons. This could be a yearly reminder of those that have passed, or those that have left. When we compare our families to others (thanks social media), and it doesn’t look like the Lifetime family (or if we don’t measure up in other ways), this can amplify those unpleasant feelings.