How to Romanticize Your Life: Investing in Yourself and Your Relationships
By: Gabby Smith
With it being February, there is a lot of focus on relationships and companionship. There is a primary focus on romantic relationships. However, I want to challenge you to tap into another very important relationship: the relationship you have with yourself. Whether you are single or in a relationship, it is important to maintain a healthy balance between focusing on yourself, growing as a person, and building strong relationships with friends, family, and your community. While some people may associate solo time with being lonely, the truth is that it is a time full of exciting opportunities. When you invest in yourself and your connections with others, life can feel rich and full of joy.
Why Individual Reflection and Alone Time Is Great!
Many books about relationships remind us that the most important relationship we have is with ourselves. When you prioritize creating individual time in your life, you have more time to learn what makes you happy, grow your confidence, and build a life you truly love. Here are some of the biggest benefits:
More Time for Yourself – Spending time with yourself can allow space for you to explore your interests, start new hobbies, and spend time doing what makes you happy.
Stronger Friendships/Relationships – When you spend time with yourself you have more time to focus on your personal values, core belief, and individual needs thus resulting in stronger connections with others. This personal reflection time helps you identify which relationship best fit you, which helps you build deep and meaningful relationships.
Personal Growth – Alone time also allows you the space where you can focus on self-improvement, learning new skills, and growing emotionally and mentally.
Freedom to Explore – Finally, investing in personal time can allow you to explore new activities, hobbies, and interests.
How to Invest in Yourself
Self-care and self-growth are important parts of life. When you take care of yourself, you feel happier and healthier. Here are some ways to invest in yourself:
Learn Something New – Take a class, read books, or learn a new skill. This helps keep your mind sharp and gives you a sense of achievement.
Exercise and Eat Nutrient Dense Food – Taking care of your body makes you feel stronger, confident, and will assist you with managing your mood.
Practice Mindfulness and Gratitude – Spend time each day reflecting on what you are thankful for. Meditation or journaling can also help you feel calmer and more focused.
Set Goals – Think about what you want in life and plan to reach your dreams.
Do Things That Make You Happy – Whether it is painting, hiking, dancing, or playing music, make time for activities that bring you joy.
How to Build Strong Relationships
While romantic relationships can be a beautiful experience, friendships and family connections are just as important. Here are some great ways to develop your relationships:
Spend Time with Friends – Make time for game nights, movie marathons, or just hanging out and talking with friends. This can assist with building deeper connections within your current relationships.
Join a Group or Club – Whether it is a book club, sports team, or hobby group, meeting new people with shared interests helps build friendships.
Volunteer – Helping others in your community is a great way to meet kind-hearted people and make a difference.
Reconnect with Family – Spending time with siblings, parents, or other relatives strengthens bonds and helps create happy memories.
Be a Good Friend – Show up for the people in your life, listen when they need support, and celebrate their successes.
Additional Fun Activities
Here are some fun activities to try that can also promote bonding with loved ones!
Travel Solo or with Friends – Visit a new city or take a road trip on your own or with a group of friends.
Go to Events – Attend concerts, art shows, or festivals in your area.
Take a Class – Learn pottery, cooking, or even a new language.
Try Adventure Activities – Go hiking, kayaking, or zip-lining.
Host a Gathering – Plan a potluck or game night with friends.
Helpful Resources
If you want to learn more about building strong relationships and investing in yourself, these books and resources can help:
"The Gifts of Imperfection" by Brené Brown – This book teaches you how to embrace who you are and build meaningful connections.
"How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie – A great guide to making and keeping strong friendships.
"Atomic Habits" by James Clear – This book helps you develop small habits that can improve your life and personal growth.
Alone time does not have to be an intimidating experience. It’s a chance to focus on yourself, build strong friendships, and create a life full of joy. By investing in yourself and your relationships, you will find happiness and fulfillment in every stage of life. So go out, try new things, meet new people, and enjoy the journey! If you would like support along this journey, don't hesitate to take the first step – your well-being is worth it. Contact us at 217-203-2008, and let's continue this empowering journey together.