Posts by Erin Graham

Positive Self Talk

“Of all the people on the planet, you talk to yourself more than anyone. Make sure you are saying the right things.” – Harvey Smith According to growkidsminds.com, we talk to ourselves more than all other conversations combined. Self-talk makes up 80% of all of our communication! Self-talk is your internal dialog. It can be…

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When Anxiety Comes Out Sideways

Anxiety isn’t always easy to recognize. Oftentimes, when dealing with kids, teens and even some adults, anxiety doesn’t present itself as them saying “I feel worried” but, instead, as behaviors.  These behaviors may include yelling, hitting, crying, kicking, and shoving. They may refuse to do what they have been asked, attempt to control the situation,…

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Emotional Co-Regulation

Co-regulation is something you can do to help your child. Children who are struggling to regulate their emotions often are easily frustrated, overreact, tantrum, hit, yell, throw things and generally feel out of control.  As parents, we want nothing more than to help them but it can feel overwhelming.     Emotional regulation is simply the…

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Let’s Talk About Apps

It is nearly impossible to stay current on all the apps that are presently available, let alone keep up on what is trendy, but “being in the know” is one way to protect your children online.  As we continue our social media blog series, let’s tackle getting familiar with the apps and platforms teens and children…

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Protecting Yourself from Second-Hand Anxiety

Do you feel anxious when your child or teen is anxious?  Can you feel your own anxiety rising as your child retells an anxious event from their day?  In all likelihood, the answer is yes.  This phenomenon is called second-hand anxiety.  Second-hand anxiety simply means feeling anxious because someone else is anxious.  This happens because our…

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Be Careful, Be Brave

Four reasons why we should quit saying “be careful” and what to say instead Spend time on any playground or park and you will hear adults (or even yourself) calling out to kids to “be careful”.  We have the best of intentions and just want to keep our kids safe.  We do not want our…

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How To Help Kids When Big Emotions Happen

Supporting our kids as they learn emotional regulation   When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, it’s our job to share our calm, not join their chaos.  – L. R. Knost    One of the tasks children and teens (even some adults) struggle the most with is emotional regulation.  When individuals are struggling with…

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COVID 19 and Grief in Kids

One of the unexpected impacts of the Covid-19 virus is the feeling of grief and loss.  When our students left their school in the middle of March, most of them were prepared to return at some point.  They didn’t know that would be the last day.   The last day to sit at their desks…

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Emotional Acceptance

Here are three steps to accept our children’s emotions so they can be expressed in a healthy manner: Take a deep breath and remain calm (joining their big emotions will escalate the situation) Hold firmly to your boundary, position or limit (this isn’t about being permissive or giving in) Let their feelings be and acknowledge…

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